Black Girl Fly: Embrace Purpose + Build Wealth

Life Changes

October 17, 2022 Tenisha & Tashaunda Season 4 Episode 13
Black Girl Fly: Embrace Purpose + Build Wealth
Life Changes
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Change is a product of time! If the COVID pandemic taught us anything, there's no way around change and it can happen in a split second. 

On today's episode of Black Girl Fly, we discuss how change has played out in our lives. We both must embrace change as a mother of 4 and a single woman making a big move. We each have different challenges, but goal setting, maximizing time, and evolving will see us through.


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
[:23] Introduction
[:56] Planning vs. Letting it Play Out
[3:24] My Plan Didn't Work... What now?
[8:35] Maximize your Time
[13:03] Evolve with the Times
[15:15] Pick and Choose your Goals
[23:11] Takeaways

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02;02;36;15 - 02;02;48;17

Speaker 1

Welcome back to another episode of Black Girl Fly. I'm your girl, Tenisha Nicole. And I'm Tashaunda Dixon. And today we are going to be talking about life changes. Your life changes.


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Speaker 2

Our life always changes. Oh, what? It is.


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Speaker 1

Always changing. But this is just the nature of life, folks. And so we just want to revisit this topic to update y'all on what's going on with us, but also just to normalize this idea of change. Yeah.


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Speaker 2

And that change is confident that change should always be happening. And if it's not, something's wrong.


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Speaker 1

Yeah, I think some people are very afraid of change.


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Speaker 2

It is a scary thing. I mean, you're working with the unknown. And for those of us who are planners, it is really hard to, you know, incorporate changes and adjust when you've had your mindset set on some direction or some way or something that you thought you were going to be doing. So I think that's a big that's a big deal.


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Speaker 2

That's why it's such a big deal.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. And I'm a I'm a planner, too. You probably know that already. It's so. But I also feel like I also feel like I I'm not going to say embrace change. Well, I think that I practice change as an active thing.


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Speaker 2

Yeah, yeah.


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Speaker 1

Because I've played.


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Speaker 2

An influential role. So I'm going to say. So I said as a planner I have less will play like way less like I used to be a hyper active like I had a five year, one year, one month.


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Speaker 1

Plan of my life.


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Speaker 2

And I'm not like that anymore. And I think I took I think I took like the the major thing. Like at one point in my life, nothing worked out. I got a house that I was like, hey, I'm not planning anymore. Oh, and so now it's, it's me adjusting and figuring out how to get back into the rhythm of playing interesting.


02;04;33;28 - 02;04;51;01

Speaker 1

And, you know, I'm on the total opposite end of that spectrum. Like, I just find so much joy in planning. Like, I could literally do that all day and not take any action. Like, I'm totally comfortable with you planning.


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Speaker 2

How do you feel? What? It doesn't come to pass like how do you feel when something completely disrupts that? Like what does that do for you?


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Speaker 1

So that's a great question. It usually like I would guess that the answer would be it knocks me off my feet, turns my world upside down. But that's usually not the case. And I'm trying to think through like probably because I've already thought about all.


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Speaker 3

The scenarios.


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Speaker 2

Playing for Unwinnable.


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Speaker 1

I play through the eight easy things that actually could have happened.


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Speaker 2

Okay.


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Speaker 1

In most cases, I mean, that's not always the case. And so I'm trying to think of some specific examples where I did it, planned the outcome. Yeah. So that has happened to me and I think what I am good at, just at pivoting, I'm like in making a new plan, like based on the circumstance, I'm not a person who like who, who lets this thing that didn't happen or work out the way that I thought it would like take me away from my ultimate goal.


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Speaker 2

How, like, how do you how do you stay so, so in my life right now. So I have a new baby again.


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Speaker 1

Another new baby.


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Speaker 2

And so now now I'm in the space where this is going to sound really strange to you guys. But when I was pregnant, I didn't really realize the magnitude of having four kids. Like, like I knew that I had three, and it just didn't physically hit me and I was holding it in my hands. And then my one year old, like, Hey, Bobby and my older girls were like, Wow.


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Speaker 1

Let me let me do this or this or is that okay? Because we were talking I was talking to this and she was like, Yeah, my family of four, I was like.


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Speaker 3

Girl, you know, the family of six, this was literally like two weeks ago. Yeah, yeah, yeah.


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Speaker 1

I had to.


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Speaker 2

I had to put it in my brain still I'm still struggling with that. But so anyway, so, so now this is like in my face and I had all of these plans of how I was going to do this and do this and do this. And I'm like, okay, this is harder than I thought it was going to be.


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Speaker 2

So how do I do this now? And I'm really still struggling. Like, I'm like, okay, so I have I decided to work on a plan to exit just this newborn mommy phase that I mean now and I'm like, I that has to be easier and it's not. And like, kind of like, I would say frustrated, but I'm kind of like, okay, here's a mountain to climb her.


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Speaker 2

Climb this mountain.


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Speaker 1

So what about it is difficult. I mean, you don't mind going into specifics like the new mommy phase versus like what you're trying to get to?


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Speaker 2

What my brain is different, meaning, like now I'm more conscious that I have a newborn here and I have this one year old and I have to balance this. And then my, my girls are in first grade and second grade and I'm like, how do I have like I'm looking at my whole picture of how do I be good at all the things that are important to me?


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Speaker 2

Like, so right now it's being a good mother, right? Then my career and then it's, it's my future plans and balancing all of those things and I'm going, okay. So I thought that my mommy brain wouldn't take up as much as some of that pie that I that I thought it would or that I could be more focused on this thing over here.


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Speaker 2

And I'm struggling with it a bit.


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Speaker 1

Like I'm listening to this memory episode. We talked about feminism and feminism, right? Okay. You making this hard, right?


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Speaker 2

So it really is like, okay, so this is actually where I am now and I am, I'm here. And so how I make that adjustment, that's I guess that's what I'm struggling with now is really making the adjustment and making the right adjustment. Maybe with how I thought about things before was wrong.


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Speaker 1

Right, right. Right.


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Speaker 2

And moving forward from there.


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Speaker 1

So when we so when you were just describing that, you kind of mentioned three things in your pie, mommy, your own professional and then like future. Yep. Like we're always building towards the next thing in whatever area. Right. And so like where is the split between those, right? If you think about a pie chart, is it one third, one third, one third, or is a one third one through?


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Speaker 1

Like where does it now versus where you want it to be?


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Speaker 2

Mommy now is probably like 50%.


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Speaker 1

Okay.


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Speaker 2

Okay. And when I say mommy, I'm not just and I'm not just talking about like the exact care of my children, but I'm talking about like my home and things like that in, in my future is probably like I want him right now and the rest got a split with professional and a couple other smaller things there. But, but yeah.


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Speaker 2

And so I'm trying to figure out how to, what is the correct balance and how to make that right.


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Speaker 1

Yeah, because I guess our question in like what's wrong with that pie that you had?


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Speaker 2

It wasn't the size that I.


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Speaker 3

Thought it was going to be, is it.


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Speaker 1

Jessie? It just in your mind? Yeah. Okay, yeah, okay. Yeah, that's.


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Speaker 2

It. So now I'm like, okay. So I thought maybe Mommy would be one third, I'm guessing.


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Speaker 3

With four kids.


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Speaker 1

Okay, well.


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Speaker 2

I do like I feel like I have a huge support system. It's almost like I can do this. I can I can make this.


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Speaker 1

But if a newborn that you're breastfeeding, I am. Okay, one third even.


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Speaker 2

Well, I'm pumping. And so I do like like half even though so this is a sad part. I have support. Like I could leave whatever I want to in my house. Like I can say, I have plans, I need to do something and I have people who would just jump in. Right. But I'm not ready to do that, which is the problem.


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Speaker 2

So it's not that I can't, it's that like my mind won't allow me to.


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Speaker 1

Mm. Now that's where you have to look right there. That's where this stuff is.


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Speaker 2

Yeah. So it's not that I can't physically, I physically pretty much can do whatever I want. Right. All right. My mind is kind of like. Oh.


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Speaker 1

Mm. Yeah, that is where I want to take the conversation. But I think, um, you know, as much as you want to divulge on that, but I, I was thinking about, so when we talk about the pie, we talk about, we also think about like there's 24 hours a day, you probably sleep in for eight of those.


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Speaker 2

So actually for more than eight of those. Okay, now.


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Speaker 1

So let's say.


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Speaker 2

I.


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Speaker 1

Said.


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Speaker 2

Yes, that's a good.


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Speaker 1

Number. So that leaves you with 14 hours in your day. Now, if you think about the splits that you were talking about, 50% of that ten five going to family house, all those obligations and then the rest being split among the rest.


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Speaker 2

I'd say that's probably pretty accurate. Yeah. But my estimation that that actually is part of what I'm doing today.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. So I think that I, you said you're struggling with like what you want the balance to be. I mean, I would take it to that very simple example. How do you want to be spending your time throughout the day?


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Speaker 2

So I have done a couple of things that I was pretty proud of. So we're doing family walks because I need to get myself together. After having a baby, doing the family walks, I take all four kids and so I have to smile when I have a double stroller. When I'm got a double stroller to be able to have one kid stroller anyway.


02;11;58;25 - 02;12;19;01

Speaker 2

And during this time I'm doing sight words with my older one. So we're walking in and I'm kind of like, Keep up, keep up. We got to move past a like, spell this. And I was like, Yes, this is one thing that I can do. I can you know, this is I'm amazing. This is my time and this is mommy time and this is, you know.


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Speaker 1

That's it. You got me time, girl. We need to get you knew.


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Speaker 2

I need to work out. So, yeah, this is me working me out. So, yeah.


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Speaker 1

It started. I love.


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Speaker 2

That. I'd rather be that, but we can make it happen.


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Speaker 1

But I do love that approach. I think we've talked about that too, in previous episodes, like maximizing the hour or maximizing the time. Like how can you check off multiple things that you want to do in one go? Right? And so one thing that I trick my brain into doing, like if I am, you know, I occasionally partake in TV, right?


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Speaker 1

I need something to release all this planning.


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Speaker 3

That I like to do.


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Speaker 1

Not to be. So I'll watch TV in. So I'm like, well, it's kind of a waste of time. So like, how can I make this more productive? So I got to be on the treadmill. Oh, you're right. Or biking.


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Speaker 2

So I pooped the treadmill event.


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Speaker 1

Exactly. So like my.


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Speaker 2

TV.


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Speaker 1

Reward time. So I don't know exactly how that will work.


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Speaker 3

On the treadmill.


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Speaker 2

The treadmill with the baby watch. Yeah.


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Speaker 1

That would be it. Just the combo. But I'm like, but you can do stuff like that to trick, trick your brain number one into reward. But it's kind of like a double whammy reward, you know. But working out is something hard mentally to get yourself to do. But when you do it, oh my gosh, it's amazing.


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Speaker 2

Yeah. No. So another one that I have to do is I'm going to I'm going to say this out loud to everyone in the podcast world. I hate to read me to. I actually hate to read. And so I got an oddball subscription and now I, I listen to audible books while I clean. And so cleaning is always, you know, I have four kids like a bitch.


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Speaker 2

So clean is always a part of my life. And so I now when I clean, I have to be listening to a book. It's my way of getting books down. And so I have two tricks. I only have two guys. So you guys have some more tricks.


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Speaker 1

Progress, you know, progress.


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Speaker 2

We can make those happen because I'm going to lead some more progress.


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Speaker 1

Are they better? Yeah, I'm like, I think the other important thing, right, bringing it back to this concept of change is like you might have to change these hacks. Like as your priorities change. Right now you have four kids, two of which are learning site word, right? So this makes sense. But what happens when you have teenagers? Right.


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Speaker 1

We have to think about.


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Speaker 2

When they play next, they'll be learning like we're.


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Speaker 3

Like you'll still be the same words you might be able to read. Oh.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. But I'm like, I think just just realizing that if you end up breaking these hacks or like stop using them, sometimes it is because you have it accommodated. The change that has happened into your life. And so I see people like beating themselves up. Oh, I used to be so good at this and I was so on top of this.


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Speaker 1

But the reality is your circumstance has changed.


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Speaker 2

I will say when I was single, I would go to the gym all the time. I was I was in the gym and I was in there. Yeah. I didn't have a pipe outside of that.


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Speaker 1

Exactly. And so what people normally do is like beat yourself up because you're not doing that anymore. But now your circumstances are different. And so how can you embrace that change and have it serve your evolving needs, right?


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Speaker 2

Yeah. No, I think that's a good word. It and I think that we're always going back to we're always going through change. And for me, I do it because it is because you have to just brought it up. And this is realize that you are your own worst critic. It'll be like I get down on myself. I was talking to my partner the other day and I was like, I'm so frustrated.


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Speaker 2

He's like, Chadda, you just had a baby like it. Now she's laid next to you and she needs things, right? And and because I had this to do is ask, I have to do this. I have to get this done. I have to do this. I have to do this and know that change is always happening, that you have to figure out how to give yourself grace, but also how to not forget about your goals.


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Speaker 2

Like like that's the thing that I'm struggling with now. The reason is it's not like I have to acknowledge that if I don't change this, I have to change my goal because I'm not going to beat it. I can't pretend like this hasn't had an impactful right moment on what my plans were.


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Speaker 1

Right. And so I'm also struggling with this right now. But one thing that I think about when it comes to goals, right. And you talked about your pie earlier to Shawn with this, you know, a very small sliver of it focused on goals. I'm a planner. We've talked about that. But I have come to see the the flaws in planning.


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Speaker 1

Right. I mean, I've come to understand the many flaws in plan and there are many benefits. But the reality is, is that if COVID has taught us anything, it is that change is a product of time. And like you're pointing, we are going to change. So don't say so the amount of time. This is how I think about it.


02;17;34;17 - 02;18;01;23

Speaker 1

The amount of time you spend in the plan is less important than the time he's been working towards the plan. And so that's one thing I want to highlight, but also another realization is that we have all of these goals and the reality is we can accomplish a lot over our lifetime, but when we try to tackle it all at once, we end up doing it all horribly.


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Speaker 1

So if we really thought about our lives right in our family, average lifespan, ooh, 50, 60 years old. But if you were to break that up into the adult years, let's say starting at 20, 22, 60, 40 years, if you were to dedicate five years going hard at some big goal, you now could have tackled eight amazing things over your lifetime versus like doing this a little bit here and this a little bit here and this a little bit there in never accomplishing any of those things or doing them to the level that you wanted to.


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Speaker 1

So I'm just saying that because I'm like, Yeah, it's great to have all these goals, but what if it's actually better to focus in and go hard on one at a time in that makes it, I think, easier for us as individuals and I think the outcome ends up being better anyways.


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Speaker 2

Yeah, no, I completely agree. Oh, it's so funny that when I think about goals and things like that, I don't.


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Speaker 1

Think like we were taught.


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Speaker 2

That like that kind of philosophy, that kind of principle growing up. And so I don't think that I've ever like actively thought about what you just said. Like, Hey, let's not focus on eight things at one time, but let's focus on one thing at a time, eight times.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. I mean, and it could be two depending on the level of intensity that you want to be able to give that thing, but realize that life is also happening outside of you. So this is like, where's that? Whatever your pie was like 40% or 30% of things are a time right of your day. You can spend every day 30% of your day for the next five years.


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Speaker 1

Think about how far you would be on that one day.


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Speaker 2

That'll be amazing.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. So, I mean, I think it's a hard concept to accept, at least for me, because I like to do most like at all times. But it's been a very humbling lesson as of late.


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Speaker 2

So so talk about your we haven't heard about your changes. What's up with.


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Speaker 1

Tricia? Yeah. So right now I'm super hyper focused on business. I mean, we recently pivoted from a different business model and that required figuring out what the new model was going to be, then building it out. And now we're really just focusing on getting the customers there. And so what I realized, though, at the top of this year, I had so many goals and I'm like, I don't have time to focus, but any other goal except for this one, like it really requires, I mean, almost my full attention, right, that I can give to it and it probably will for some time.


02;20;53;14 - 02;21;19;27

Speaker 1

And so, I mean, that was just a harsh reality for me to to come to terms with it. But as long as I'm saying yes to all other things, I am saying no to that. And so so that's what I've been really focused on. And yeah. What were other questions also like. Yeah, so, so that was real for me.


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Speaker 1

Other changes that are happening in life is I'm contemplating a move right now and so I have about a month.


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Speaker 3

Until my move day. Oh.


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Speaker 2

Okay.


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Speaker 1

So probably by the time the next time you hear from me, I'll be at a different I'll be a resident of a different state.


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Speaker 2

Oh so I fly to do our podcast.


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Speaker 1

Yeah. So I mean that's the thing, it requires a lot of, a lot of change and I think that's been really scary for me because it's a big change. It's moving back to a city in which I lived in for almost a decade, a place that I consider home, right? So I'm like super excited about, about going home, so to speak.


02;22;16;06 - 02;22;35;13

Speaker 1

But then I'm also plagued by the reasons that I left. And so that's that's probably the hardest for me to reconcile. Like I left that place with what I thought was full closure. Like, I'm gone. I never thought I would leave that out already.


02;22;35;14 - 02;22;49;26

Speaker 2

But I think this is a new podcast topic. We had to get out, but about like being in the right place for the season in your life. Yeah, like I have places that I've left that I was like, That's home. And then I went back, by the way, and I was like, This is no longer home.


02;22;49;26 - 02;23;14;00

Speaker 1

Yeah. So DC is a very interesting place and when I was there, I have to tell you, I swore up and down I was like, I will never leave this place. And it's a very transient city. So over the decade I saw many friends come and go, come and go and come back and go again and all that.


02;23;14;29 - 02;23;36;18

Speaker 1

And I remember the advice that somebody gave me one time. I mean, I don't remember what year it was, but they were like, in order to really appreciate this place, you have to leave and come back. And I was like, Hmm, right. Whatever, whatever. That had to be at least like three or four or five, six. And then, you know, year ten.


02;23;36;18 - 02;23;47;26

Speaker 1

I'm like, I left because I was like, I can't live how I want to live here. Like I have to make so much more money to be able to live the life that I want to live.


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Speaker 2

You make more money now, though.


02;23;49;06 - 02;24;09;21

Speaker 1

And now? Yeah, now I do make more money. So I'm like, maybe it's the season thing that you're talking about, but I'm just I'm excited to, like, see what it's going to be like now after having so much more life experience and a different perspective. But I'm also scared. Like what if I what if I have to leave again?


02;24;09;26 - 02;24;19;15

Speaker 1

I don't know. Or what if it doesn't work out? And so those are all the things going through my head. And I literally and moving in a month and I don't have a place.


02;24;19;15 - 02;24;20;10

Speaker 3

To live and I'm.


02;24;20;10 - 02;24;24;15

Speaker 1

Not paying, but I haven't even really thought about it. So.


02;24;24;15 - 02;24;36;14

Speaker 2

Okay, so we have to talk about that. So, so I know, I know we've talked a lot about a lot of the changes that are going on in our life. I want to unpack that fear of change later on later on.


02;24;36;14 - 02;24;57;24

Speaker 1

This is the episode like you want to go somewhere different? I do, but I guess if there's anything so we're going to say there's going to be a continuation of this conversation. But if there's anything that you would want to leave for the audience, like what would that key message be about? About all the we talked about in this episode, right?


02;24;58;02 - 02;25;17;03

Speaker 2

Yeah. I think that it would be you're always going to encounter change. Take it with the understanding that this is what's to come and that that just means that you are living it. So, so keep going and know that it's not a bad thing. It maybe a little scary, but that you could conquer it all.


02;25;18;03 - 02;25;32;09

Speaker 1

Yeah, I really like that. I, I would echo those same sentiments that, you know, change is inevitable. Is inevitable. And if you're not changing, check your.


02;25;32;09 - 02;25;39;00

Speaker 3

Pulse. Make you maybe did you you right.


02;25;39;00 - 02;25;44;06

Speaker 1

You might be dead but I'm like I'm saying this advice is of us.


02;25;44;06 - 02;25;45;10

Speaker 3

Know I say it.


02;25;45;10 - 02;26;06;13

Speaker 1

Out loud like it, you know, for the good and for the bad. Like it makes you a better person. I think it gives you a broader perspective and understanding of yourself, the world around us. It stretches you. Yeah, it stretches you. So, so yeah. So that's what I would say.


02;26;07;29 - 02;26;08;16

Speaker 2

That's good.


02;26;08;18 - 02;26;13;27

Speaker 1

And so I guess we'll close this out and say, until next time, folks, I'm your girl. Tanisha, Nicole.


02;26;14;02 - 02;26;14;26

Speaker 2

Shot at exit.


02;26;14;26 - 02;26;42;11

Speaker 1

And we are black girl fly.



Introduction
Planning vs. Letting it Play Out
My Plan Didn't Work... What now?
Maximize your Time
Evolve with the Times
Pick and Choose your Goals
Takeaways