Black Girl Visioning

It's time for our yearly visioning conversation! The ladies jump right into today's episode by Tashuanda sharing that she is taking small steps toward her goals, and Ava finds planning to be a creative outlet. Daymond John and the CliftonStrengths Finder received some free promo, and the sisters have a new solution to vision boarding. 

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Daymond John LinkedIn Article: https://www.linkedin.com/business/learning/blog/career-success-tips/why-daymond-john-reads-his-10-goals-every-morning-and-night

00:24- Introductions 

00:45 - 2023 Visioning 

4:00- Clifton Strengths Finder 

8:40- Vision Boarding 

10:56- Avas New Solution 

14:40 Importance of Writing Things Down 

16:20 Daymond Johns Goal Strategy 

20:39 Bucket Lists

24:51 Outros

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Transcript

Sentence | Start Time

Welcome back to another episode of Black Girl Fly. | 0:24
I am your girl Ava. | 0:27
I'm shonda oh gosh, that sounds so weird. | 0:28
All right, we're going to work on this. | 0:32
Maybe I have to be Ava Marie. | 0:34
Maybe. | 0:37
Okay, we're going to work on that intro, y'all. | 0:38
We're still getting used to this new name stuff. | 0:40
anywho, we wanted to talk this episode about visioning, and you all already know how we feel about visioning. | 0:43
We do an episode every year about this because it's just that important. | 0:53
what's going on with our visioning for 2023? | 1:00
Because you just asked me about this and I was like. | 1:06
Okay. | 1:19
a couple of things that have happened for me that I'm really trying to work through is I now have a lot going on. | 1:19
Yes, you do. | 1:27
Overnight. | 1:28
I'm trying to figure out how to spend time. | 1:29
I feel like I've abandoned my planning for my future, if you will, in a way. | 1:34
now I'm trying to figure out how to get back to it. | 1:41
How can I make small steps as a busy mom before working, like everything? | 1:45
How do I make sure that I leave that time? | 1:52
by the way, I'm also a newborn mom, and so I'm not getting up because I wake up every 3 hours at this point. | 1:55
how do I incorporate that part into my life? | 2:04
It's kind of really where I'm at now and not forget about it. | 2:06
lately I've pulled out some of my old things and making sure I'm not looking at this. | 2:10
I got a call with an opportunity this morning. | 2:18
I was like, does it fit? | 2:21
I don't know. | 2:22
I got to sit down and I got to figure it out. | 2:22
I'm really trying to figure it out. | 2:26
Still trying to figure out how to do that without having out of time like I would normally do or like I had in the past to really flush it out. | 2:27
You do a lot of stuff. | 2:36
It's so interesting. | 2:39
My view on for me personally, I've been in this space of like, I'm a planner. | 2:41
I just love the feeling of planning and imagining. | 2:47
Does it make you feel like you have more control? | 2:52
Like, I get this not necessarily for me, it's more just like I don't know, it's just a creative outlet for me to imagine what could be. | 2:55
when I did my clips and strains finder there's a strength around futuristic. | 3:07
It's actually my number two. | 3:14
Okay. | 3:16
this is just like a person who likes to live in the future. | 3:16
That's me. | 3:21
That's me. | 3:21
Okay. | 3:22
I'm totally content with just like, being in this space that doesn't exist and imagining it, but what I realized is that I get too comfortable in those spaces. | 3:23
I really have to, as a practice, focus on execution and doing the thing that's going to get me. | 3:35
it more like you're kind of out in the clouds, and you have to bring yourself back in to actually deliver on it and do those things. | 3:46
Okay. | 3:53
Yeah. | 3:53
my top three out of five on my Clifton strength finder are actually all within the realm. | 3:54
Okay. | 4:02
Can you explain strength finder? | 4:03
Yes. | 4:05
Sorry. | 4:05
Yes. | 4:07
All right, so last year, I did a I'm all into these personality assessments and things I'm like, I believe well, I've received messages from God saying that in my past, everything that I need, I already have is inside of me. | 4:08
Right. | 4:25
I've always been a person trying to better understand myself and how I can become the visions that I've had about who I can become. | 4:25
I'm like, I need to know how that just is in my. | 4:35
Taking every quiz possible is what you're saying? | 4:40
Yes. | 4:42
I've taken almost all of them. | 4:42
I haven't taken Anyagram, which people love, so I think I need to take that. | 4:45
I use them in many different ways. | 4:50
the one that I love the most is Myers Briggs, and that's what I've used. | 4:53
we also like, as an entrepreneur, I found it very important to do Clifton strength finder because I wanted to position myself in my business in a way that I'm operating in my strength. | 4:57
when I'm operating in my strengths, like, the business can operate in a strong way, but similarly, I think I need to staff people in their strengths. | 5:11
That's a different story. | 5:22
I took this Clifton strains finder, and they give you 34. | 5:24
There's 34 characteristics, and they rank them where you are really you pay attention to your top five. | 5:30
These are the areas you really need to lean into in terms of your strength areas. | 5:38
the top ten gives you a sense of additional areas that you can feed so that you can be your best. | 5:43
The other eleven to 34, for me, I've made a conscious decision, like, yeah, we all have weaknesses, but I feel like so many people spend time trying to improve their weaknesses rather than just trying to staff their weaknesses or finding other solutions, rather than pouring into your strengths and just really going all in on those. | 5:52
That's how I approach the Clifton strength finders in particular. | 6:20
I think it's a helpful thing to have in the work context, though. | 6:24
I did my boyfriend and I, we shared our results with one another to see in our relationship, like, how we show up, and we have eight out of ten of the same top ten. | 6:29
That's crazy. | 6:43
We're very similar. | 6:44
That's insane. | 6:45
We also have the same Myers breaks. | 6:46
Really? | 6:48
Yeah. | 6:49
We're very similar people, I think, which is what attracts us to each other. | 6:50
But we definitely have different strengths. | 6:57
I will say, even though eight of the ten are the same, they're not in the same order. | 7:01
the two that are different leans me more in the execution phase, and him more in the strategy phase, which means that he moves a lot slower on decisions that I would like because I just want to do stuff and figure it out later. | 7:07
he really wants to spend the time and make the right decision once. | 7:21
we do compliment each other in a lot of ways, but that's one huge difference that's a little blurb about Clifton. | 7:27
Okay, so from that you spend a lot of time kind of planning and whatnot. | 7:36
Yeah. | 7:41
though, my second area in Clifton is strategy, and I think that's where this futuristic piece fits in. | 7:42
I have a semi strong strategy angle to my strengths, but execution, like, actually getting it done is an area of strength of mine. | 7:50
people are always asking me, like, how I do so much stuff. | 8:00
Yeah, you do things really quickly. | 8:04
I take so much random stuff and I do them fast, relatively fast, slower than I would like, actually mostly pretty fast, but pretty fast in comparison to everybody else. | 8:06
it is because that is the strength of mine. | 8:17
people get on me, especially in the dei space about moving so fast, and I'm just like, this is a strength. | 8:20
you're trying to tell me, don't be me, but I'm like, you actually probably just need me to partner up with somebody else and then it works. | 8:28
I'm trying to embrace this execution phase is what I'm saying, in relation to vision board. | 8:40
I was on the fence about if I was going to make a vision board or why, because I'm in this space of like, just do what if we just did what we knew, oh, my God, we don't need no more new information. | 8:44
Just do the stuff to be true. | 9:01
that's why I was on the fence about it. | 9:04
I definitely am going to do a relationship one with my boyfriend, a vision board. | 9:06
I think I will do a vision board for this year because I think from last year or the last time we made it changed. | 9:14
I was looking at the last few years similar to what you were saying, and I was like, why is this all my vision for? | 9:25
I was going to say that too. | 9:33
that's why I think that I need to so I didn't do one last year, and so I had been working, I told you, with the previous year when I was like, coveted head and installed a lot of things, and it changed a lot of things. | 9:34
as I sit today, I think I'm a very different person from where I was two years ago. | 9:47
I'm sitting here going, so I'm taking like, a nomad season next year. | 9:53
I'm trying to plan for that now. | 10:01
I'm trying to figure out what else I put in that. | 10:02
I'm like, I'm actually not in the same head space at all. | 10:04
that's why I felt like it was necessary. | 10:09
Like, I'm like, I have to regroup. | 10:11
Like, I need to what I said earlier, I need to find a new time because it is very important that I really figure out what that picture looks like for me. | 10:12
it feels very different, though, I would argue, like, once we actually get it down on paper, I doubt it's very different, but it just feels like it's so different in our day to day. | 10:24
I'm with you on that. | 10:38
That's crazy. | 10:40
I was going to say. | 10:43
I have two additional kids since last time I did one. | 10:43
the kids are in a different space. | 10:47
So, like, before, I felt like I had more room to like, I have less room now. | 10:49
I'm excited. | 10:56
Tishana was asking me, and she's like, when are we going to do these vision boards? | 10:58
Because I'm about to go on a trip. | 11:01
I was like, I got a solution. | 11:03
Yeah. | 11:06
I've been inspired to do the next vision board digitally. | 11:07
Okay. | 11:13
I have been thinking about this for some years now, but I was like, it doesn't feel the same. | 11:15
Explain to me this digital thing. | 11:24
What do you mean? | 11:26
we're going to create our vision board on a computer. | 11:27
Why is that? | 11:33
She's like, what? | 11:34
This is though. | 11:35
Okay, I gathered that from the digital part. | 11:36
Can you give me more meat? | 11:40
It's not deep, but it'll allow us we're not going to be in the same physical space, so it allows us to do this together wherever. | 11:45
Can we find listeners to do it with us? | 11:55
I think we could, yeah. | 11:58
Wait, so first of all, we got to get some people to tell us that they want to do it with us. | 12:00
Okay? | 12:05
Yes. | 12:05
you all let us know you all want to do a vision board, virtual vision board party. | 12:05
That would be super dope. | 12:11
it will also be the first time that we've interacted with our podcast. | 12:13
Yeah. | 12:18
So I think we can do this. | 12:19
we're going to set a date, and we'll let you all know when we're going to do this. | 12:20
Okay. | 12:24
It's very easy to do, and it still can look very however you want it to be, however creative and abstract you want it to be. | 12:26
Or it can look very linear, right, because it's on the computer. | 12:37
this can be done easily in canva and you just really Google your images. | 12:41
you have now the world of images to pull from, to be as specific as possible. | 12:46
Whereas with magazines, we know we're challenged by we're limited based on the types of magazines that we have. | 12:52
we started incorporating a few years ago of printing stuff out in addition to using magazine images. | 12:59
If you feel so strongly about those magazine images, you can scan them and still upload them. | 13:06
You can probably find a digital copy. | 13:13
This just allows us more freedom and access to the types of images that we put on our board. | 13:17
also I feel like the options are so much more vast and you can carry it with you all the time now. | 13:24
You can put it on your phone, you can print it out if you want to and not have the quality suffer. | 13:36
You can make it really big, you can print it out small so it fits in your planner. | 13:44
You have so many more applications, I think, to the use of it. | 13:48
Okay, I like it. | 13:53
It is cool. | 13:57
one thing that I enjoy about vision boarding, though, and that I want to make sure that we incorporate is the community part of it, talking about it and working through it. | 13:58
So we're going to do that, guys. | 14:08
we're going to put it on events, and we'll put it across multiple cities so you guys be able to get through there or whatever. | 14:10
Let's go. | 14:20
I'm ready. | 14:21
We're doing a vision board. | 14:22
It's time. | 14:24
It's still time. | 14:25
I guess I would ask in terms, is there anything else that you would share about vision boarding specifically, or visioning like this is one of our hallmark topics, I was going to say. | 14:27
just a reminder to people that there was a Harvard study, I mentioned this in our first episode, probably two or three years ago, but there was a Harvard study done, and they were asking about what does the most successful people in the world, what do they have in common? | 14:40
Like, what is the magic sauce that makes them successful? | 14:54
what they found was that the people, they write things down and they look to them daily. | 14:56
guys, this is just a way to incorporate really that concept into your life, because we know and so why this happens. | 15:04
By the way. | 15:12
It's not because they're more genius than anyone else. | 15:13
it's that when you have a constant reminder of what it is that you're going after and what your goals are and what you want your life to look like, it's just in your daily activity. | 15:15
You'll start to transform the things you do to be more aligned with what it is that you want. | 15:26
so, guys, I know that this seems like light. | 15:32
We talked about how fun it is. | 15:34
We talked about how we like these things, but that's what's behind it. | 15:35
Like, it's powerful. | 15:40
It could really change your life. | 15:41
Another note. | 15:44
people say that naturally everyone over plans goal wise for like a year, or your short term goals or year long goals. | 15:45
largely they say that we underplanned for five year goals. | 15:56
This is a way to really think about where it is you're going, what it is you're doing, what is your long term plan, how to optimize getting there. | 16:01
I just can't say how meaningful it is and how powerful it is to your life. | 16:10
Yeah. | 16:18
The other thing that I learned this last year was Damon John's goal strategy. | 16:19
Okay. | 16:27
We don't have to put some affiliate stuff in because you already talked about what was the first thing you were talking about? | 16:29
The self evaluation, what was that? | 16:35
Right, yeah. | 16:37
Clifton. | 16:38
Clifton, yeah. | 16:38
We're going to put that in the show notes. | 16:39
Damon John, we're going to need some affiliate he does dollars either. | 16:41
A masterclass. | 16:45
I know he has a course specifically about the goals that you can purchase. | 16:46
I'm like, yeah, we need some affiliates from you all. | 16:50
anyhow, so his philosophy, and I know I'm going to butcher this, but I would do my best. | 16:53
It's one year, two years, five years, ten years, 20 years. | 17:00
That's the breakdown. | 17:06
you make five goals for the next twelve months, and they should be big goals, like goals that you would really have to stretch to meet. | 17:08
Right. | 17:20
you make those, your one year goals, five of those, and then you make one goal for the two year mark, one goal for the five year mark, one goal for the ten year mark, and then one goal for the 20 year mark. | 17:21
So I messed it up. | 17:36
So six goals. | 17:37
Okay, try again. | 17:39
So six goals for the one year. | 17:40
Okay. | 17:42
And then there's four additional goals. | 17:42
Two year, five year, ten year, 20 year. | 17:45
That's the part I always mess up. | 17:47
six goals that you focus on in this interim year, and then you're thinking longer, further out. | 17:50
I was challenged by this number one, because I've never thought about 20 years. | 17:58
No, the only thing I've thought about that long was retirement. | 18:04
That's the only goal I've ever thought about out that far. | 18:07
Yeah, I think that's for most people, retirement. | 18:10
even with no specificity wait, let me be clear. | 18:13
I had some goals, like paying off my house. | 18:18
Those were my longer goals. | 18:21
Yeah. | 18:23
if you could assign paying off your house to a five year goal, just think about how different you would attack that if you're forced to put only one goal in five years. | 18:24
Ten years, 20 years. | 18:36
This is my first year trying this, so I'll let you all know how it goes at the end of 2023. | 18:41
I thought it was fascinating and it really challenged me on the types of goals I was putting in those longer range categories. | 18:47
that's why I thought it was interesting that you said we underplanned for the future. | 18:59
it was really like, oh, Dang, are you going to wait five years to do this thing? | 19:05
Or like, can you really get this done in ten years? | 19:11
This is probably a 20 year thing, so it just helped put some perspective on some of those goals. | 19:14
Okay, well, that's good. | 19:21
I hadn't thought about it in that way. | 19:22
I'll have to check out that it was a book. | 19:24
What's the book called? | 19:25
I don't think it's a book. | 19:26
The master class. | 19:28
Yeah. | 19:29
They have an online course about it, but if you Google this concept, just say Damon John Gold, he's everywhere talking about this. | 19:30
He talks about it quite a lot interviews. | 19:39
Got it. | 19:41
Yeah. | 19:42
that's all I really have to add on this visioning piece. | 19:43
I'm going to be working in 2023 on execution. | 19:47
I don't want no new goals. | 19:53
I think you got more goals than everybody else. | 19:56
I mean, I may have a goal of $2.5 million in the business, but who doesn't have that? | 19:58
I do have some pretty lofty goals for this coming year, but I think with only six, that's not a lot. | 20:11
It really, for me, is going to allow me to focus in on doing on those lofty areas. | 20:19
No, I like it. | 20:26
I actually heard you guys, so your partner and you guys were both talking about that, and I was like, oh, I'm going to do that. | 20:27
Once again, I hadn't done it yet, so I'm going to come back to you guys with my six goals. | 20:34
what you're referring to is a bucket list. | 20:40
Yes. | 20:42
It's not a relationship. | 20:44
We each individually have bucket list items, and these bucket lists for folks who don't know are like, things you want to do before you die. | 20:45
And so I keep our list. | 20:55
I'm the holder of the list. | 21:01
It lives in my phone. | 21:03
we're just together, and we'll be like, I'll add that to the list. | 21:05
That's a common phrase, like, oh, yeah, add this to the list. | 21:10
I want to make mine more concrete, though. | 21:13
I don't know. | 21:15
I don't know if I wanted to be a bucket. | 21:16
This list is pretty concrete. | 21:18
Okay. | 21:20
I feel like you guys aren't assigning it like plans like you do with the rest of your goals. | 21:21
No, they don't have goals associated, like dates and stuff like that. | 21:26
these are the things that will populate those plans. | 21:31
Some things on there are, like, my boo. | 21:35
He wants an IMAX in the base. | 21:38
Okay. | 21:46
I'm going to put you out there. | 21:46
What is one of your goals? | 21:48
So he wants an IMAX. | 21:49
What do you want? | 21:51
I want a vineyard. | 21:51
Yes. | 21:52
You guys do this, right? | 21:53
That's my point exactly. | 21:55
I know that you aren't here, but I feel your look. | 21:57
I do. | 22:00
I feel I feel like that's completely normal. | 22:01
she yeah, we talked, me and her partner, we talked about this. | 22:03
He wants IMAX. | 22:07
It's unrealistic, but she wants to be here, then it's fine. | 22:08
I literally like that competes totally in my life. | 22:12
I like wine. | 22:17
We invest. | 22:19
We're supposed to invest in things that we like. | 22:20
Yeah. | 22:22
Still have a winery. | 22:23
As long as you get, like, some rose and some wines, I'll be a major contributor. | 22:24
And I just think about my boo. | 22:33
He loves parties, and so we can supply the party with our this just makes so much sense. | 22:36
My idea makes sense. | 22:45
Okay. | 22:46
IMAX make that make sense, please. | 22:47
All his friends going to be watching the IMAX usually get that. | 22:50
That's okay. | 22:55
He don't even watch sports. | 22:56
So what you're going to be watching? | 22:58
What is it did you go be watching? | 22:59
Okay, I'm sorry. | 23:01
We've been hit off on it, but. | 23:04
Anyway, so that's our bucket list. | 23:05
We have like, these bigger items that will eventually populate our shorter term goals list. | 23:07
My list, I think, is very rational in that there are a bunch of just investments that I want to make on there. | 23:14
my philosophy around investing is invest in things that you love and that you will do. | 23:23
I have a lot of stuff on there, like buy an airplane. | 23:30
I see an airplane a lot, actually. | 23:35
I will write and so it's just exactly put your money where you're actually putting your money now and haven't worked for you. | 23:37
that's what most of my list is and some travel destinations in his list. | 23:45
He got a whole party that he wanted. | 23:51
That's like a $50,000 party. | 23:55
I don't see how you're going to pay for this. | 23:57
Apparently he's going to get some sponsorship. | 23:59
But this is Arthur's annual sponsorship. | 24:01:00
Is it a write off? | 24:03:00
No, it's not. | 24:04:00
No, it's annual party series. | 24:05:00
Okay. | 24:09:00
And it's very elaborate. | 24:10:00
So this is the type of stuff. | 24:11:00
You guys have to pay to go. | 24:13:00
No free for the guest. | 24:14:00
I like that. | 24:16:00
I'll be there. | 24:16:00
So, yeah, if you get an invite I won't get an invite. | 24:17:00
You better get on this invite list. | 24:21:00
Okay, I'll leave the kids. | 24:23:00
that's the kind of stuff he puts on his list. | 24:27:00
Okay. | 24:33:00
So guys, you heard her. | 24:34:00
Go. | 24:36:00
So level up your goals. | 24:36:00
If you like me, I'm like I need to level up based on what I heard. | 24:37:00
Whatever. | 24:42:00
we look forward to hearing you all goes. | 24:43:00
We're looking forward and we're going to schedule it. | 24:46:00
We're going to put it out there for you guys to be looking for our invite to our digital visioning party. | 24:47:00
Yes. | 24:52:00
Until next time, you all. | 24:53:00
I'm your girl avery And I'm shana Dixon. | 24:55:00
And we are black girl Clyde. | 24:58:00